Seems logical: If someone ends a relationship or is not into it, don’t beg them tostay if they don’t want you.
we teach some of that same advice here: dont chase. dont over pursue. dont wear your heart on your sleeve. dont beg. give space. get back to the upbeat, confident person that your ex found attractive in the first place.
most relationships (in general) recycle. 60% of them do. and to have second thoughts and change your mind, to give things another try, or to have broken up with someone to teach them a lesson when you didnt really mean it, these things are common. so often, theres a window of time that for whatever reason, some of them healthy, a relationship might rekindle.
if you want to reconcile, in that time, and in general, its important to read the other person, to know how theyre feeling, and respond in a way that shows it, with confidence and respect. often, its the only hand you can play, and doing the opposite only tends to make things worse.
if you think about it in terms of dating etiquette, or good manners, thats very different than manipulation or mind games. if you go to a dinner party and you chew with your mouth open, and you slurp, and you behave inappropriately and make the guests uncomfortable, odds are you wont be invited back. theres nothing inauthentic or manipulative about being mindful of that. not respecting someones space is really the same thing.
but i don't know If it helps to build a healthy relationship in any way.
it absolutely wont, and thats a very important point.
most online dating coaches are glorified pick up artists, with sprinkles of good advice. any given time, with any given person, it may "work". it doesnt teach you the skills to be that healthy person that can attract a healthy other. reconciling a relationship is really about understanding what went wrong, and how to change it (if possible); how to get on a healthier, more stable, long term trajectory. otherwise youre just putting yourself back in an unhealthy situation, and possibly for unhealthy reasons.
