Help with my partner

[Scaredoftherages]

I could not understand my partners rages . It’s only recently that I realise he has bPd and its all starting to make sense. He can be verbally abusive. We have a child together and most of the time he is a good father but when he is angry he is so horrible to me. My friends all think I should leave him but I do love him. He does try and tell me what he needs , 100 percent devotion, admiration, attention, praise, I find it exhausting.
I guess now it makes sense.

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[Ozzie101]

Hi Scaredoftherages and welcome!

I'm so sorry you find yourself in this situation. You'll discover, as you look around this site, that you're not alone.

My H has also been verbally abusive (though, thankfully, that has stopped -- at least for now). And it is a very painful, emotionally exhausting situation to be in.

I hope you don't mind if I ask a couple of questions. Are you now or have you ever seen a counselor? Has his abuse ever crossed over into the physical or are you afraid it might? How long have you been together?

As I said, I've been in your shoes and I want to help, if I can!