To be or not be

[thesnowman84]

So my wife and I have been on a emotional roller coaster as of lately.  She has BPD. I have some issues myself as well but I do try to be there for her and help her to cope. Last week we had a meltdown and she decided to go to her parents and leave our home. Her parents are not good for her not her mental state as she already knows. So what I’m asking you is what would you do in this situation? What do I need to do to help her understand that I would never abandon her? Any help is much appreciated and thank you for taking the time to read this as I’ve been researching alone and looking into counseling for her and I.

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[pursuingJoy]

Hi snowman! I'm so sorry to hear about your recent conflict with your wife. It must be hard to know she's at her parents and perhaps more vulnerable than usual. Have you been communicating with her? Has she mentioned how she's doing?

I'm in marriage counseling with my husband and I do encourage you to pursue that option, as well as individual counseling if you can. Details help us here so please share more when you can. We are here!

pj