Please Help. Its all lie. I'm drowning.

[Depression = 72% of members]

Ive been married to my wife for 4 years. Shes been hospitalized twice for suicidal ideation and going completely psychotic. She was diagnosed with BPD and the marriage has been horrible. Too much to explain on here. She became increasingly delusional and verbally violent and narcissistic, and started seeing a womans-only type counselor who told her she did not have BPD and that I was verbally abusive. Within 2 months she left me instantly while i was at work, house was a mess, with our two innocent boys (1 & 2 1/2 yrs old) to a women's shelter and kept me from the boys and got a free lawyer and our whole social circle of friends just hates me. Theres been 2 trials now and her lawyer is very powerful. Its all lie. I'm drowning. I have no money. Work 2 jobs. Paying $1000/mo child support/alimony (half my income) And the boys are not safe with her! Shes a great mom but her decisions and people reading are terrible. This is a living nightmare. I've tried SOO many things. Doors just keep closing. Please someone help me. Please please please. I beg you.  Thank you.

[Elvenkind]

Ive been married to my wife for 4 years. Shes been hospitalized twice for suicidal ideation and going completely psychotic. She was diagnosed with BPD and the marriage has been horrible. Too much to explain on here. She became increasingly delusional and verbally violent and narcissistic, and started seeing a womans-only type counselor who told her she did not have BPD and that I was verbally abusive. Within 2 months she left me instantly while i was at work, house was a mess, with our two innocent boys (1 & 2 1/2 yrs old) to a women's shelter and kept me from the boys and got a free lawyer and our whole social circle of friends just hates me. Theres been 2 trials now and her lawyer is very powerful. Its all lie. I'm drowning. I have no money. Work 2 jobs. Paying $1000/mo child support/alimony (half my income) And the boys are not safe with her! Shes a great mom but her decisions and people reading are terrible. This is a living nightmare. I've tried SOO many things. Doors just keep closing. Please someone help me. Please please please. I beg you.  Thank you.

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[livednlearned]

Wow. It sounds like she found herself some negative advocates to support how she feels (vs reality) 

Theres been 2 trials now and her lawyer is very powerful

What's going on? Where do things stand now?

How are the two of you communicating?

[Elvenkind]

She is claiming domestic violence and was issued a free lawyer and has said many lies. Complete lies. Her lies keep increasing. When she left me she snapped and is like she is possessed. She is super hateful and only wants to destroy everything. She seems to have no conscience at all. Her lawyer is simply helping her, speaking for her. Her lawyer is a domestic violence lawyer. And she also very angry and merciless. Just like her counselor. The amount of hate from these women has nearly crippled me. Now just waiting a few more trials for me to prove she is mentally unstable. But i never wrote all the stuff shes done in our marriage; all her behavior. Everything thats happened in this home i never told anyone. She behaves different behind doors when no one is there but in front of others shes the biggest victim. Which she is half convinced she is. I feel so depressed and scared especially for my boys. This is an extreme injustice and the world seems to not care. Theres is no resources for me in all this. I've tried and tried. We communicate thru text.

[livednlearned]

I can understand why you would feel afraid for your boys if she is dysregulating like this.

It's stressful to go through trials, especially when you hear someone saying horrible things about yourself.

What kinds of things is she texting you? That must be hard to receive messages from her when she's acting out so maliciously.