Another thing on that, Sinister.
In my first year of this psychology degree, apparently the literature shows that we - as individuals - are prone to believe that those who provide black and white answers are more competent / have more expertise on the subject.
Meanwhile, people who answer questions with the appropriate nuance, are perceived as not being an expert (or to be believed).
That is, we are built to want (and believe) simple answers to complex questions!
It's something really interesting for all of us to keep in mind, as it's an innate weakness of our reasoning / perception that psuedo-intellectuals take advantage of.
Also, Marv, it's completely understandable to want to know the answer to that question. It's best to focus on building your boundaries so that, when / if he comes back, you are ready to choose the course of action that best suits (and protects) you.
Sadly, it is true. Charisma goes a long way (sometimes charisma is cloaked under the guise of black and white answers). Someone with confidence who acts the part can go a long way...i.e. many YT "Experts" Hence why you will hear fake it until you make it passed along. The unfortunate reality is that part is taken a little bit too seriously. Some "experts" will blatantly make S
up to fill space and divert by using big words and putting the onus back on the audience to deflect from getting scrutinized and risk being found out as a fraud. The good news...there is much more higher level discussion that takes place on these boards and actual resources made available. I am personally not really a fan of the youtube stuff. I'd still rather read peer reviewed articles or read a book (research nerd alert
)...archaic in this day and age I know, but its something about the video stuff that screams I need attention that drives me away. I use youtube for music videos when looking for new stuff to listen to. That is about it. To each their own though. No one way is superior. Different strokes for different folks.
Appreciate the back and forth here Grumpy ;-).
Not to detract from Marv here though. Marv, you posed the question, but let me put this back on you for a moment. Being honest, what do you think of yourself? What do you feel your value is? Would you consider your self-esteem low, high, or in-between? Where would you rank your self-worth? More importantly...what do you truly feel and believe? Just some food for thought here.
Cheers and best wishes!
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