I responded by saying ok, so its not fair on him, but why do you keep unblocking / blocking me then? Her response - "I'm not, I don't understand how this is happening but your number is deleted from my contact list and I never look at my blocked number lists - I'm sorry I cant explain it and I'm sorry if its upset you"
Gemini1967,
more likely than not, what is happening is what i have seen with a number of apps: sometimes, when someone has blocked me, i can still see their profile picture. sometimes it depends on whether i look on my phone, or my pc.
think about it. if she wanted to hurt you, there are better, more practical ways than this; she could have taken you up on the invite, and done who knows what.
looking, not looking, is really, really hard. i remember after my breakup, i couldnt stop. the crazy thing is, she had removed me as a friend, and put up privacy, so i couldnt even see anything except her profile picture, and no matter what it was, no matter how innocuous (and it usually was), i would go into a tailspin for hours on end.
at the end of the day, its like any bad habit...you just have to find the motivation to stop, or else, get tired of doing it. if nothing else, if this person is using profile pictures to hurt you, then let that be your motivation not to give them any daylight.
hang in there. it was a brutal breakup. healing isnt easy.