My best friend with BPD won’t forgive me

[Braves918]

My best friend with BPD won’t forgive me for an honest, innocent mistake. I made dinner plans with someone I wasn’t aware talked PLEASE READ about her. I should’ve known better. I should’ve known this would be her reaction. She won’t forgive me. How do I fix this. It was an honest mistake.

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[kells76]

Hi Braves918, welcome to the group 

Yes, pwBPD can struggle with "all or nothing" thinking, where even an honest mistake can become "the unforgivable event". So difficult to cope with, and you're left reeling.

Can I ask, does your friend have an official diagnosis? Or is this more "putting some pieces together" on your part?

Occasionally giving the pwBPD space and time to self-soothe and come back to baseline can help make things less bad. Has that happened over the last few days?

Fill us in whenever works best for you;

kells76