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Author Topic: if you find yourself going through hell... keep going  (Read 831 times)
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« on: March 09, 2010, 09:13:47 PM »

My ex BPD gf was sexually abused by her father for many years. (A sure way to "make" a BPD.)

Do you think they abuse their bf/husbands as a sort of surrogate punishment since they cannot always go back and punish the person that abused them? Sort of like a missplaced retaliation or revenge?
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« Reply #1 on: March 10, 2010, 03:04:43 AM »

who knows for sure ? but it could be and more than likely
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« Reply #2 on: March 10, 2010, 04:57:57 AM »

No. The disorder isn't about seeking revenge- it's about fear. But she would likely choose a mate that triggers repressed memories of feared circumstances in a repetition compulsion. www.en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Repetition_compulsion
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« Reply #3 on: March 10, 2010, 06:43:25 AM »

She may be projecting her anger out toward you.  This is an anger which can be triggered by anything real or perceived.  Its a defense mechanism to protect a deeply wounded core within.  Its terribly sad for them but so damaging for us on the outside.
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« Reply #4 on: March 10, 2010, 06:54:14 AM »

destructive right, abused children devellop that, not sure if it is the same with sexual abuse.

Can imagine it is...
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