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Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse... Have you considered that being critical, judgmental, or invalidating toward the other parent, no matter what she or he just did will only make matters worse? Someone has to be do something. This means finding the motivation to stop making things worse, learning how to interrupt your own negative responses, body language, facial expressions, voice tone, and learning how to inhibit your urges to do things that you later realize are contributing to the tensions.
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« on: December 19, 2010, 09:14:31 PM »

Contempt.  That is such a good word to describe how I think he felt about me. 

I think that he actually had contempt for me because he knew that I was a much better person that he was. 

I let him come back over here and stay a couple of weeks ago because he was so sick and by the time he got better, he was more hateful toward me than ever.  Probably because he knows that he would never let anyone who was sick stay with him and catch their cold.
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« Reply #1 on: December 19, 2010, 11:57:01 PM »

Are you disengaging?
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« Reply #2 on: December 20, 2010, 01:38:43 AM »

Are you disengaging?

Yes.
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« Reply #3 on: December 20, 2010, 02:29:31 AM »


Good for you. 
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« Reply #4 on: December 20, 2010, 02:19:28 PM »

Maybe it is contempt for himself projected onto you.
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« Reply #5 on: December 20, 2010, 06:16:40 PM »

Maybe it is contempt for himself projected onto you.

I think you are right.
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« Reply #6 on: December 20, 2010, 08:19:00 PM »

Besides my ex accusing me of being hateful, evil and bi polar, he told me once that I was full of contempt for him. Which I was because of all his abuse, but it took me years to see, he really felt deep hatred and contempt for me because I was something and he was a nothing.

No friends, I have tons

I make things happen, he's a lazy jerk

He just simply hates!
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