New direction coaching DD26

[qcarolr]

DD text for bus schedule home. Text back with times and that having no more house guests. She was very quiet and went downstairs. Glad I have church in morning and palydate in afternoon tomorrow.

qcr

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[peaceplease]

qcr,

I can relate to much of what you have posted.  And, I am glad that I will be in church, tomorrow, too.   Such, a feeling of peace, there.  My dd has been so wicked.  And, some problems with her and dh.  They are all loony!  I mentioned to my dd that I was checking out therapists, and she yells that I don't need a therapist to learn how to set boundaries with my dh.  Yikes!  I am convinced that my dd is very wicked.  She says that my dh is going to make her explode.  I told her that she has to accept some responsiblity, and it is not all him.  Then, I am accused of taking his side.

I don't interfere much with her and my gs.  However, yesterday, I stepped in.  She was absoltuely MEAN.  She noticed that he had a mark on his face.  He said that he was kicked by some boy on the bus.  My dd went ballistic. It really appeared that she was angry with my gs.  I knew that she wasn't, but I told her to bring it down a notch.  She blasted me for interfering.  Then, tells him that she is not mad at him.  And, then gets angry when I tell her that I am not going out to buy him a $10 toy as she was demanding.  (Her guilt)  She made me look likeI was so insensitive that I would not go out and buy him a toy.   I did have to go to the dollar store, so I bought him a dollar toy.

I know that my dd is upset because she starts her house arrest on Tuesday.  But, I refuse to be at her beck and call.  She has been so wicked these last few days.  She brought this on herself.

I need to remind myself that she is not a rational person.  That she is projecting towards me these last few days.  And, I have been walking on eggshells around her.  I may be looking forward to her house arrest.  I may have to misplace my phone, often.

Oh, qcr, I wish you peace!  

 

peaceplease

[vivekananda]

peace to all granma's struggling with dd's and BPD and themselves.

radical acceptance, no judgements and keep eyes on the long term goals.

Cheers,

Vivek