Trauma Bonds

[Depression = 72% of members]

I had friends that used to wonder whether I attracted disordered ones or made normal ones in to disordered ones. So same pattern here. My exwife has a few issues, but is more normal person I have been with. There is a good book called "A general theory of love" that gets in to science a little, but explains why you attract who you do and where it all comes from... goes back to early attachments. Book was very good, but bummed me out a bit as it made it clear without some deep changes I was likely to continue to fall for and attract the same kind of people... worst of which was my pwBPD.

[charred]

I had friends that used to wonder whether I attracted disordered ones or made normal ones in to disordered ones. So same pattern here. My exwife has a few issues, but is more normal person I have been with. There is a good book called "A general theory of love" that gets in to science a little, but explains why you attract who you do and where it all comes from... goes back to early attachments. Book was very good, but bummed me out a bit as it made it clear without some deep changes I was likely to continue to fall for and attract the same kind of people... worst of which was my pwBPD.

[Phoenix.Rising]

Thanks, Charred.  I've made a note of the book you mentioned.  I'm an avid reader. 

On a positive note, many (maybe most) people take these issues/patterns to their grave.  I believe it takes a huge amount of courage and determination to attempt to make these changes.