Feel Like I Can't Live Without Her

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Harmkrakow:  Wow.  You are an EXPERT on this stuff.  Thank you for teaching me.  Wouldn't you know it, the greatest chance for your BPD contacting you back is when you have forgotten about them.  Scary thought.  


Changed4safety:  Thank you so much for sharing that.  We are a lot alike, except I'm even more of an introvert.  I don't enjoy large groups of people.  I prefer one on one.  I also prefer close friends and not to have too many people around.  A lot of people around stresses me out because I have trouble with the banter.  I find it boring as hell... .    

I guess this is self limiting for me, but maybe necessary to meet people.  IDK.  

I figure I'm ready to "date", but not ready to have a new wife, that is for sure.  

I also am not all that excited about dating because I did plenty of that living in NYC before I met my exBPDWife there.  I mean it was like watching Seinfeld.  New girls every week, so I kind of know what's out there and what I prefer.  And that is DEFINITELY not located on those dating sites! ha ha ha  

I wonder where most people meet?  I'm thinking it's at work.  

I think I'm working through the phase of re-establishing myself.  I'm sure what I want to do (complete the boat, do the vacations for rich folks and travel the world on it).  I just need to (eventually) find a partner who is a good person, no psychosis (I could live with depression... .  ha ha ha), fit, thin, attractive and short/petite (I'm a guy... .  we do have some looks standards, I apologize for my gender).  I'm also looking for a woman who wants to travel and doesn't have kids that she would need to take along or want to have new kids with me.  Tall order.  That's basically the slot my exBPD filled, but that is the hole in my life.  I'm not sure I want to give up who I am (nature loving, world traveling type) for a woman.  I guess that is loving yourself, right?  Finally standing up for what you want/need out of life?

Once I can get this boat done, I will have a fairly high income again and can afford to support two people easily on it, while traveling the world.  A great life, for the right person, but 90% of women want kids and want to stay put somewhere.  Narrows the field a bit.  My exBPD was all for this stuff (and chose it out of many options, including kids and family).  Just need to find a fun, cool, laid back suitable person to enjoy this stuff with me in a year or two when the boat is done.

[TheRealSully]

Harmkrakow:  Wow.  You are an EXPERT on this stuff.  Thank you for teaching me.  Wouldn't you know it, the greatest chance for your BPD contacting you back is when you have forgotten about them.  Scary thought.  


Changed4safety:  Thank you so much for sharing that.  We are a lot alike, except I'm even more of an introvert.  I don't enjoy large groups of people.  I prefer one on one.  I also prefer close friends and not to have too many people around.  A lot of people around stresses me out because I have trouble with the banter.  I find it boring as hell... .    

I guess this is self limiting for me, but maybe necessary to meet people.  IDK.  

I figure I'm ready to "date", but not ready to have a new wife, that is for sure.  

I also am not all that excited about dating because I did plenty of that living in NYC before I met my exBPDWife there.  I mean it was like watching Seinfeld.  New girls every week, so I kind of know what's out there and what I prefer.  And that is DEFINITELY not located on those dating sites! ha ha ha  

I wonder where most people meet?  I'm thinking it's at work.  

I think I'm working through the phase of re-establishing myself.  I'm sure what I want to do (complete the boat, do the vacations for rich folks and travel the world on it).  I just need to (eventually) find a partner who is a good person, no psychosis (I could live with depression... .  ha ha ha), fit, thin, attractive and short/petite (I'm a guy... .  we do have some looks standards, I apologize for my gender).  I'm also looking for a woman who wants to travel and doesn't have kids that she would need to take along or want to have new kids with me.  Tall order.  That's basically the slot my exBPD filled, but that is the hole in my life.  I'm not sure I want to give up who I am (nature loving, world traveling type) for a woman.  I guess that is loving yourself, right?  Finally standing up for what you want/need out of life?

Once I can get this boat done, I will have a fairly high income again and can afford to support two people easily on it, while traveling the world.  A great life, for the right person, but 90% of women want kids and want to stay put somewhere.  Narrows the field a bit.  My exBPD was all for this stuff (and chose it out of many options, including kids and family).  Just need to find a fun, cool, laid back suitable person to enjoy this stuff with me in a year or two when the boat is done.

[Changed4safety]

I met most of my friend through "work", though as I am a freelancer it was not the usual type of work.  Through networking in my field and attending conventions, finding others who... .  oh heck with it, I'm a freelance writer, so at writer's conventions, genre cons, and through professional organizations. 

Just started the Meetups, the nice thing about those is you have a ready made conversation starter--the restaurant/type of food if it's a dining/cooking group, the movie if you're movie buffs, the book if it's a book group, the trail if you're hiking and so on.

[TheRealSully]

Hmmm... .  those meetups do sound interesting.  I wish I wasn't in Florida right now.  I've been snowboarding since 1987 (was a kid) and would love to do that as a meetup.  Hiking would be great too, but no mountains here.  Not sure sailing would work, since that's my job.  Would have to think through and find good meet ups.  What are the age ranges you have seen at these meet ups?

Ah, networking... .  the thing that gives me panic attacks! ha ha ha.  I have a real problem with that stuff.  I literally get exhausted chit chatting with people for hours on end.  It's always work.  Doesn't come natural for me.  I'm sure you make lots of friends with your abilities in that area. 

I met most of my friend through "work", though as I am a freelancer it was not the usual type of work.  Through networking in my field and attending conventions, finding others who... .  oh heck with it, I'm a freelance writer, so at writer's conventions, genre cons, and through professional organizations. 

Just started the Meetups, the nice thing about those is you have a ready made conversation starter--the restaurant/type of food if it's a dining/cooking group, the movie if you're movie buffs, the book if it's a book group, the trail if you're hiking and so on.