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« on: January 24, 2013, 07:15:58 AM »

I'm 3.5 month out of a year long BPD binge (my first and hopefully last).

The first few weeks were the worst drug withdrawal that I have ever gone through! I'm 8 years off of crack, 4 years sober and 2 weeks smoke free.

I literately thought my heart and gut was going to explode, couldn't sleep or eat ... .  even cold chills. She had moved in with me and promised everlasting love - bolted with no explanation and move back to her hubi

NEVER AGAIN! I am sending any future candidates to my pysch for screening!
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« Reply #1 on: January 24, 2013, 08:27:21 AM »

Welcome Nolisan 

Glad you found us but sorry for the reason you are joining our group.  Detaching is hard work!  How are you doing now?  Are you taking care of yourself?  Congrats on the quitting smoking.  Smiling (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #2 on: January 24, 2013, 09:35:24 AM »

I'm 3.5 month out of a year long BPD binge (my first and hopefully last).

The first few weeks were the worst drug withdrawal that I have ever gone through! I'm 8 years off of crack, 4 years sober and 2 weeks smoke free.

I literately thought my heart and gut was going to explode, couldn't sleep or eat ... .  even cold chills. She had moved in with me and promised everlasting love - bolted with no explanation and move back to her hubi

NEVER AGAIN! I am sending any future candidates to my pysch for screening!

Glad you are here! And all the best of luck!   Hang in there
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« Reply #3 on: January 24, 2013, 11:07:41 AM »

Great analogy nolison. Hang in there and stay away from her if you can.

While I've never experience drug addiction I am finding my own detachment from my exBPDgf to be excruciatingly painful after 3 years of an on again off again r/s. It's now been about 3 months since the "final" breakup and 3 weeks of no contact for me.

Despite being treated so terribly (20 phone calls a day at work, called a lying pig and worse, having all my friends family and kids trash talked, being hit and spat on, house broken into ... .  ) I still miss her so bad.

It's completely irrational and seems to indicate a deep void in us that we would want to go back to that kind of r/s? I think we sometimes mistake the intensity of these relationships for intimacy (which we all crave). We've never experienced anything so intense so when it disappears we feel lost. There is this huge emptiness in us.

I come hear now when I feel like I "have to call her". I can't go back. I realize time will ultimately heal and let me move on. I believe that is the case for all of us.

Hang in there and stay away! Good luck.
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« Reply #4 on: January 26, 2013, 04:55:36 AM »

Hang in there. It really is never easy.

This is a very helpful  thread


https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=141948.msg1382884#msg1382884
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