Bout to move out

[Depression = 72% of members]

Dear Family, I'm about to separate from my BPDW.  This past Christmas Holiday was the last straw.  During the Holiday season she treated me like I wasn't in the house at all.  She didn't cook anything for me, but she did cook for her Son who was at the time home for Holiday break.  I got so frustrated I threw something in her direction because I was hurt because she spent no time with me at all.  All she was concerned about was her Son and his friends.  Can't take it anymore.  I'm not telling her what day i'm moving cuz I don't want her trying to manipulate me to stay.  I get the feeling  sometimes that she's cheating on me.  All she keeps saying is "you don't want to take care of me", and that's not true.  Its just that since we got married 2 1/2 yrs ago she has hardly shown no committment to this marriage it's been things like she is still using her maiden name, she doesn't cook, when we go on trips she offers no financial assistance, sleeps in the other room occasionally, don't get invited to any of her family reunions etc.  She told me about a week ago that she doesn't want the marriage, me and she wants me to move out.  I had already told her during our heated argument during the Christmas holiday that I will be out by the 1st of Feb.  Do you think she'll be mad at the fact I moved out and try to make the marriage work or what?  or is this all a game?

[dapperman]

Dear Family, I'm about to separate from my BPDW.  This past Christmas Holiday was the last straw.  During the Holiday season she treated me like I wasn't in the house at all.  She didn't cook anything for me, but she did cook for her Son who was at the time home for Holiday break.  I got so frustrated I threw something in her direction because I was hurt because she spent no time with me at all.  All she was concerned about was her Son and his friends.  Can't take it anymore.  I'm not telling her what day i'm moving cuz I don't want her trying to manipulate me to stay.  I get the feeling  sometimes that she's cheating on me.  All she keeps saying is "you don't want to take care of me", and that's not true.  Its just that since we got married 2 1/2 yrs ago she has hardly shown no committment to this marriage it's been things like she is still using her maiden name, she doesn't cook, when we go on trips she offers no financial assistance, sleeps in the other room occasionally, don't get invited to any of her family reunions etc.  She told me about a week ago that she doesn't want the marriage, me and she wants me to move out.  I had already told her during our heated argument during the Christmas holiday that I will be out by the 1st of Feb.  Do you think she'll be mad at the fact I moved out and try to make the marriage work or what?  or is this all a game?

[Rose Tiger]

You know her better than us, so you know historically what her reaction may be.  With my ex, it was a crap shoot, either rage, didn't care or concerned.  Who knew where it'd fall on the wheel o crazy?

Please read this in regard to leaving... .  

https://bpdfamily.com/bpdresources/nk_a110.htm

Stay safe and let us know how things are progressing.  Here's to a fabulous 2013 Christmas for our group!