Last night and this morning

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

So last night, i get back to my apartment after dinner. First day attempt at no contact with stbexw. She has sent me 40+ texts throughout the day. I didn't respond. Called 10+ times. Attempted to face time call. Didn't answer. So she showed at my apartment. Rang doorbell over and over. Pounded on door. Made some excuse about needing money for her car. I didn't answer door. She eventually went away. Then she attempted to call several more times. I resonded to an email she sent and let her know there was room on her credit card for expenses. Left it at that. She raved on and on about how I have never not responded. Is there another woman etc, etc.

I get to work this am and fraud alert emails on my credit card. Apparently she has called and switched the billing address to her address. And changed my password. So I had to call company and reset password and return billing address to my address. Wow! OH and one of her emails said (did you enjoy your dinner at such and such place? Did you think I wouldn't find out? Apparently she accessed my charges from credit card online after resetting my password. I went to dinner with friends. I'm sure she thinks it was with another woman).

[lost007]

So last night, i get back to my apartment after dinner. First day attempt at no contact with stbexw. She has sent me 40+ texts throughout the day. I didn't respond. Called 10+ times. Attempted to face time call. Didn't answer. So she showed at my apartment. Rang doorbell over and over. Pounded on door. Made some excuse about needing money for her car. I didn't answer door. She eventually went away. Then she attempted to call several more times. I resonded to an email she sent and let her know there was room on her credit card for expenses. Left it at that. She raved on and on about how I have never not responded. Is there another woman etc, etc.

I get to work this am and fraud alert emails on my credit card. Apparently she has called and switched the billing address to her address. And changed my password. So I had to call company and reset password and return billing address to my address. Wow! OH and one of her emails said (did you enjoy your dinner at such and such place? Did you think I wouldn't find out? Apparently she accessed my charges from credit card online after resetting my password. I went to dinner with friends. I'm sure she thinks it was with another woman).

[trouble11]

WOW What a night, huh?  Sorry Lost ... .  she is Chaos with a capital C.  Hope your saving all those texts and emails.  You never know when you might need them. ie court.  Hang in there.  I'm feeling stronger than I have in years, but don't think I would have held up as well as you did last night.  Good for you. 

[lost007]

It was hard. I have let her in once before. She was pretty broken that night. This time I was pretty afraid. She was kind of panicky. Didn't want to let her in and something happen. Not to mention her kids were in the car. Our divorce is upcoming and she seems to be getting worse. Have a call in to my lawyer to see how to handle.

[trouble11]

I'm kinda thinking in this particular case it might not hurt to call the cops if/when there is a next time.  Just in case, at some point, you want/need a RO.  Just a thought.

[trouble11]

Fortunately mind doesn't, or can't, behave that way since he is the cops.