anyone get back with their ex and they were 'different'

[broken but not beaten]

Just wondering if anyone else experienced the same. When you've seperated then gone back have you noticed they are a totally different person with different morals, values and life stories?                 For example my uBPDxgf never agreed with sending and erotic or other pics of herself to anyone,however when we reengaged she offered with no suggestion by me to send pics to me,also stories from her past relationships she had told me before became something totally different. Friends she once enjoyed were now bad in her eyes for no obvious reason,the only consistent thing was her inconsistency,drinking and acid tongue

[Gaslit]

A tell-tale sign she is mirroring someone else, and may very well have been with someone else.

[broken but not beaten]

Thanks gaslit,although reading your response made me feel sick in the pit of my stomach,the hard thing in all this is understanding who you thought they were is not who they are,total mind f@ck,I thought I was healing from this but I my reaction to your answer tells me I've a long way to go,are you saying she offered me behaviours she experienced with someone else and adopted those behaviours,I just don't get it

[Scott44]

Yep, big time.  When my ex moved out to be with another guy and his two autistic daughters she began to watch wrestling, play video games, learned how to play poker, and tried pot.  all things this new guy liked and never had been a part of our lives.  when he kicked her out and threatened her life she came back to me and actually showed signs of distress whenever any of those activities were mentioned on TV or by myself.