Coping strategies

[Rose Tiger]

Thanks Suzn.  I do feel a lot of guilt over being such a leech during those nonproductive times and so grateful to these people for keeping me employed.  Maybe that keeps me from getting assertive, that gratefullness.

And thanks Gina for the supportive post, it makes me feel so darn good to have your support.     Connecting to my inner child, that was a huge step forward in my healing.  Ok, in the past, FOO was not so nice to the inner child.  Being supportive to that little person, well, when she feels good, I feel good!

[AnotherPhoenix]

  Hello,

One thing that has helped me a lot, particularly regarding being gentle with myself, but also regarding validating myself, has been the resources at this website: www.self-compassion.org/. A strange thing that I have noticed is that being gentle and kind with myself, along with other types of self-soothing and self-compassion, does a lot of self-validation!  It has some great guided meditations that have helped me a lot, and a lot of other stuff that has been extremely useful! I heartily recommend this page for anybody who is going through difficult times (all of us on bpdfamily.com?) and is having a difficult time with self-soothing / self-compassion. If you are new to self-soothing / self-compassion, I recommend the guided meditations and the exercises!

AnotherPheonix