This week has been total
Tuesday, S/O called me during his work day. He fell on the job and smashed/broke his knee-cap. He requires surgery and workman's comp is dragging their feet about it so he is home with a leg brace to immobilize his knee and upset that he doesn't know when they will fix the knee. Recuperation will be a long process and he wants to get started on the rehab asap.
After the accident, he rode to the hospital in an ambulance so his car was left at the job site and we asked SD to come to hospital and get his keys, pick up his car and deliver it back home. One of her loser friends drove her, someone we've never met. She brought the friend into s/o's room at the hospital. No clue this wasn't cool. Her friend didn't have a clue either. Her friend never shut up the entire time they were there, diagnosing S/O. S/O even asked this kid if he is a medical professional.
I, on the other hand, was icy with SD as a result of having this annoying know-it-all loser in the room. (I know, I suck!). When I stepped out of the room to make a phone call, SD complained about my icy attitude to S/O but he didn't explain why I might be upset with her because we hadn't talked privately about it and he "wasn't sure". After she left, I texted her and apologized for being so frosty and explained why. She texted me back and told me she brought the guy into the room because she was "nervous about being in a hospital". She is a CNA. She has worked in a hospital before.
S/0 is going to be down for three months! He won't be able to drive for three months! I'm already exhausted from the effort of caring for him. He is useless with his crutches and so I'm doing everything for him.
Thursday SD came over to fetch some of the paperwork he needed to turn into his office. While she was here he talked to her about his new vapor cigarette alternative. He talked it up (he has quit smoking tobacco and now just uses this vaporizor thingy to get the nicotine without the tar) this little device comes with multiple flavored liquids, many taste like candy or sweets or alcoholic beverages. SD tried it. She also told us that an enabling friend offered to buy her one of these devices because the friend doesn't like her smoking (SD is a 2 plus pack a day smoker, she's 21 and sounds like an old bar-fly with the gravelly voice from the constant smoking).
The next day her facebook page reports that the enabling friend took her to purchase one of these devices. With accountrments, this device will have cost the enabling friend at least 80.00. The enabler also took SD out to eat her favorite fish tacos. SD reports, as well, that she was "laying out at the beach" (she has no business laying out, she will burn as she is very fair... . never tans... . all she is doing with laying out is giving herself skin cancer later)
So, in addition to being exhausted, now I'm annoyed that SD is being enabled, that her Dad sparked this, I'm sure she will use the device for a short while, getting attention for having it and letting everyone she knows try it out, then it will put in a drawer or left in her car and her "attempt to quit smoking" will be an expensive exercise in futility. She wasn't interested in quitting smoking until he let her taste "margarita" flavor, which she LUVS!
I'm upset that she is trying to tan. We go through this EVERY YEAR. She gets a horrible burn EVERY YEAR.
I'm pissed that she gets fish tacos. Even though I'm doing 100% of everything I still make our dinner. No restaurant fish tacos for Thursday. (where is the crying, self-pitying emoticon?)
Two weeks ago she applied for a job and hasn't heard anything back from them. This is "job hunting". The job is at a hospital. I am annoyed that she hasn't done any other job hunting while waiting to hear about this job, which she won't get because she got fired from her last position and hospital's can pick and choose from hundreds of CNAs who haven't been fired from their last job for not showing up for a shift and not calling. I know this because my nonDD used to work at a medical clinic here and when they needed a new CNA they would get hundreds of applications. SD got the job she had before through a friend.
When she came over to get the paperwork, her Dad gave her 20.00. I could have gotten those papers over to the office with 1.00 worth of postage.
He is hurt and boundaries are breaking. Tonight she gets her 2 year chip at AA. She called last night asking if we were coming. (seriously!) It's as if visiting her Dad she didn't notice that he can't walk and that I am doing everything for him. She knows he can't drive and that I have something to do that night and was never planning to go to her AA meeting to see her get her chip. I know she wants our support but we do have some other stuff going on right now!
Did I mention that while she was over here getting those papers, I was helping her Dad get comfortable and she told me I was "doing it wrong"?
Yea, somebody better get to Florida ASAP and hug me quick.
Thursday
