Is cooperation possible?

[Jai Yen]

I've been on the divorce board since October. I'm in the process of divorcing my uN/BPDw of 18 years. We have a D17 and S16. She's lived in her home country for going on 5 years. She's there now. I pretty much raised the kids along. No small task. We operate an online business together the requires both of us to succeed. We both have agreed to continue the business.

After all the energy I used determining the best course of action in terms of getting her served and proceeding with the divorce I feel stuck. She and I still need to communicate by Skype to discuss the business and kids. I still feel an attachment to her even after all the very difficult experiences I've had with her. At this point in time I need to continue to cooperate with her for financial reasons and for the kids benefit. I understand that it's likely better to go NC or LC to allow myself to heal and move on at some point. The kids will be off to college in the next 30 months. I need about that amount of time to regroup and find new income sources should the business not make it.

Have others successfully maintained a connection to their exes? Is it possible to simultaneously stay connected and move on? Has anyone had an experience where you were able to transition your relationship from a marriage into a partnership with limites? I look forward to hearing about your experiences.

[LetItBe]

I know of at least a couple of regulars on the "Staying" board that maintain some kind of friendships with their ex's.  You might like to check out that board for some tips.  Good luck!