dissociation

[kimberlysc]

My h told me today that he does not remember the kids from even a year ago.  He does not remember any of the animals we have had in the last 15 years... .   or pretty much anything.  Does anyone else have this problem?

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[connect]

Mine has a terrible time with memories. He did have a brain injury when he was younger and that has contributed to it too. But in general he says that his memories kind of fade off after a year so they are not so clear. Not sure if its BPD or the injury. It makes it hard to have consistancy though when things arent recalled clearly. I have a normal memory and he thinks my memory is freakishly good and is almost suspicious of it.

[arabella]

Does this happen regularly? I mean, does he usually remember these things and just all of a sudden now he doesn't? And does this disturb your H at all?

My dBPDh does dissociate (very rarely) but he remembers pets and things like that. It's more that he can't remember things about himself. e.g. He can't remember how he felt in the past, his attitudes toward things change dramatically, he doesn't remember conversations we've had, etc.

[kimberlysc]

Connect -its has to feel bad not to know why he doesnt remember things and whether or not its from a brain injury.

This is all new to me.  H will talk almost everyday about his childhood... .   in great detail, its like i am almost there.  So when he told me he remembers almost nothing from about 18 years of age to now (38) it was a shock to me.  He said he only remembers things that were traumatic.  He knows the kids are his... . but remembers nothing except when they were born.  He remembers getting married.

He says that be hates seeing pictures because they are a reminder of what he does not remember.

The first time i saw him do this was about 2 days after we watched a movie.  He had really liked the movie and had even rewound a part to watch it in slow motion.  But 2 days later he asked me why we never watched the movie.

He doesn't have a clue when he lost his memories, because he doesn't remember them ever happening.

[benny2]

Mine actually has memoies of things we did years ago that I can't even remember. He seems to hang on to those good moments we had together, but he also tends to not recall some things he says or converstations. I think that all stems from the fact that you have to watch their actions instead of listening to their words.

[kimberlysc]

No drugs or alcohol.  But... . i did just look up the wellbutrin that he takes, and lots of people have memory problems from that.  So i'm guessing that is probably what it is.