So... she vanished and made brief contact.

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

So there's a long story before hand, but basically my undiagnosed ex, split me black, smeared me and vanished... .  

Anyway 2 and half months later, this week. She unblocked me on facebook, and had the same profile picture as when we first met. Now I'm pretty sure she is seeing someone new, so imagine things got rocky there so she maybe attempted to re-engage me!

SO... .  I sent a message saying "hey is this you attempting to see if you still have control over me" (She does) and i got a message back saying "haha you were the controlling one" (Projection). Anyway we had a bit of dialogue about the relationship, she said some horrible things about me. Said if I new what she thought of me I wouldn't even have made contact... .  But we had some positive-ish talk. I confessed I became co-dependent, and a rescuer. And she even confessed as to how unstable she was... .  But she was giving it the "I'm so happy with out you", "I don't miss you", "I did love you but you poisoned it" etc. Anyway I know she knows something is up with her, and I think she knows what (she has a psychology degree and has mentioned BPD before)... .  

Anyway I said "sorry if it's BPD, I'm always here for you etc. I love you etc." and my story is on this forum! She said "what you have bipolar?" (She knows what it is!).

Anyway... .  

What do you think will happen now? she's vanished again? Says she hates me still etc.

[Undone123]

So there's a long story before hand, but basically my undiagnosed ex, split me black, smeared me and vanished... .  

Anyway 2 and half months later, this week. She unblocked me on facebook, and had the same profile picture as when we first met. Now I'm pretty sure she is seeing someone new, so imagine things got rocky there so she maybe attempted to re-engage me!

SO... .  I sent a message saying "hey is this you attempting to see if you still have control over me" (She does) and i got a message back saying "haha you were the controlling one" (Projection). Anyway we had a bit of dialogue about the relationship, she said some horrible things about me. Said if I new what she thought of me I wouldn't even have made contact... .  But we had some positive-ish talk. I confessed I became co-dependent, and a rescuer. And she even confessed as to how unstable she was... .  But she was giving it the "I'm so happy with out you", "I don't miss you", "I did love you but you poisoned it" etc. Anyway I know she knows something is up with her, and I think she knows what (she has a psychology degree and has mentioned BPD before)... .  

Anyway I said "sorry if it's BPD, I'm always here for you etc. I love you etc." and my story is on this forum! She said "what you have bipolar?" (She knows what it is!).

Anyway... .  

What do you think will happen now? she's vanished again? Says she hates me still etc.

[Clearmind]

Well my friend, this forum is for you to heal and find tools to better your situation. Your laundry is hung out to dry here - for her to see... .  what do you think her reaction will be? What were hoping to achieve by sending your last message?

[Undone123]

good point. How do i remove it? It's horrible though. I can't talk to anyone