Hello, new to the forum and to the world of BPD

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My grandmother has BPD. When this was discovered, my mother went through such a range of emotions - she felt like so many things finally made sense. She read books, did research, etc. Oddly enough my grandmother had a series of strokes that completely altered her behavior and she is now a wonderfully pleasant woman. I had sworn I would never speak to her again but 5 years later, I call her every few weeks to chat. I don't suggest this is a form of treatment though!  

My mother has always been "difficult" but it has not been until the last year that I truly feel she has BPD. Obviously, I cannot diagnose her, but many MANY of the symptoms are there. In the past, I thought some of the things she did was more of a learned behavior from her mother but now she is acting in ways that are beyond that.

I too feel that I have some of the symptoms but I also feel that they are "learned behaviors". I hope that with awareness and therapy I will cope and not spread this to my kids.

I decided to come to the board for advice and will start a thread concerning that. I'm glad to have found this place.

[mcdoogle]

My grandmother has BPD. When this was discovered, my mother went through such a range of emotions - she felt like so many things finally made sense. She read books, did research, etc. Oddly enough my grandmother had a series of strokes that completely altered her behavior and she is now a wonderfully pleasant woman. I had sworn I would never speak to her again but 5 years later, I call her every few weeks to chat. I don't suggest this is a form of treatment though!  

My mother has always been "difficult" but it has not been until the last year that I truly feel she has BPD. Obviously, I cannot diagnose her, but many MANY of the symptoms are there. In the past, I thought some of the things she did was more of a learned behavior from her mother but now she is acting in ways that are beyond that.

I too feel that I have some of the symptoms but I also feel that they are "learned behaviors". I hope that with awareness and therapy I will cope and not spread this to my kids.

I decided to come to the board for advice and will start a thread concerning that. I'm glad to have found this place.

[Tkwoody]

Hello Mcdoogle

Welcome. I, too, am new to the world of BPD. But this is a great place for information and support. I honestly don't know much yet myself about BPD but I am learning I would recommend reading some posts and getting a feel for what others have gone thru or are currently going thru. I have a step daughter who is 9 and we believe she has BPD so I hang out on the thread about Supporting sons and daughters with BPD. Maybe you can find a thread that will help you too? I think there is one that deals with friends and families with BPD? Just a suggestion.

I am so glad you are here hope you find what you are looking for.

[catnap]

   mcdoogle

I am so glad that you have found us and have done a bit of exploring around the website.  Many of our members have a loved one that is undiagnosed (uBPD) in their lives. 

When a family member has BPD, the illness can negatively everyone in the family system, including children, siblings, and in-laws. Senior members on the [L5]  Coping and Healing from a BPD Parent, Sibling, or Inlaw board are experienced with and can help you with setting boundaries, finding relief from FOG, encouraging self-care, improving your handling of relationships impacted by your BPD relative, and pursuing a path of recovery from traumatic experiences. The validation, information, and support will give you strength on your journey.

Please keep posting. . .it does help.

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