Break up stay together #2

[bruceli]

"ok so here is currently what I am trying to deal with and figure out. My BPD wife whom I love to death has been making a suggestion that we should separate in order to start dating and become friends again. when I say separate she is suggesting that I move out for a year and pretend that we are not married and that we do not have kids and have a long distance relationship all the while pretend that we just met and go from there. If after a year if everything is going well move back in together."

The following thread above was started by to livin2farnorth earlier today... . Today, at our first T session together... . dBPD/NPDw said the EXACT same thing above almost verbatim to the T!  I almost pooped myself!  So very creepy and eirie I tell you... . One of the MANY sith sense moments I have had with a pwPD... .

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[briefcase]

Hi bruceli,

What did the T have to say about this?  I take it this isn't something you are interested in trying - for the obvious reasons stated in your post! 

[bruceli]

To me, this would be the epitomy of a person being co-dependant.  The T was in awe with much of what she was saying.  He kept on looking at me with that What the heck look on his face and smiled alot.  Going to try and get a one on one with him before our next visit.  :)W pretty much used the session trying to convince me and the T that her way is the right and best way, etc, etc.  Pretty much what you see with most of the other posts about sessions others her have with there pwPD.