No one likes to feel alone. Maybe you get a respite in your head from thinking about your ex or the problems that you had with your ex when your with friends and family.
I just recently returned from seeing family in the usa. I was sad to leave them for many reasons, but one of them was because my thoughts werent drifting to my
ex nearly as often when I was there. The obsession took a break for a while. I knew returning to my "life" would dredge those feelings up again.
I have picked up
. Slowly they are fading as I learn new ways to cope without mirroring my ex's way to cope. As you know they are VERY manipulative and I think its only natural to pick up on some of their ways. Its highly effective for them, but its not right to treat others that way.
Just because you can doesnt mean you should.
Laelle