Thanks so much. The thing is she is terrified of him dying but at the same time says the same horrible things about it. I spoke to my daughter and she was very clever and suggested that I say something along the line of " if he doesnt get rest and take things at his own pace he will die. " as she acusses him of being lazy and sleeping all the time. she gets frightened when his is bad and then when she feels some relief wants to drag him everywhere.
Just remember that if you dare to suggest something, it will be twisted to make her look like the victim. If your mother is anything like my mother, I'm sure you will end up getting the dirty end of the stick.
I'm talking about manipulating her. They think they are the queens of manipulation - and they are - but there comes a time when a little good manipulation comes in handy. Hey, we learned from the masters, why not use it for a good purpose! I was just thinking about your dad and your compassion for him in his end days... . just trying to get some of the pressure off him. Poor guy.
This reminds me of my late husband's SIL's parents. Her mother was such a witch, she would take her poor husband (who was also in his last days), sit him on a piano stool in the living room and tell him not to move until she got back. Naturally, the poor man had no way to even get over to the couch, so he sat there for hours while she got her hair and nails done. He couldn't even get to the bathroom! Now, that's a witch!
There is a lot of evil in this world.
