Thank you Seeking Balance.
Eating has become a task. I have lost a lot of weight as a result of this. Granted I needed to lose a few pounds but never intended it to be as a result of sickness.
The famous BPD breakup diet - 20lbs in 30 days... .
Take your vitamins, make yourself keep some calories in - it helps the brain chemicals to help with the depression.
Sleep is not my friend. I slept alone for ten years before him. When we were together, he held me close when we slept. His hand was always over my heart. We joked because we would seldom move at night. Called ourselves pretzels. It is hard to sleep. I miss the "pretzel".
I know this feeling well - I too missed having my ex wrapped around me to sleep. Use pillows, get a pet, soft music, take a bath -do the things you have always heard of to help sleep. It won't be a magic cure, but it helps. It will get easier over time, it just does.
I have been trying to take walks and get some exercise. I actually rode a bike last night. the first time in years. I am working on being healthy.
I signed up for and did the 3 Day/60 mile Komen walk my first 6 months of the breakup. Having a focus was good for me, and the training gave me a new routine not about my ex. Maybe a mini triathalon or some other physical goal you always wanted to try - now is the time. This helped probably more than anything for me since I had to be busy training... . after 15 miles walking, you do tend to fall asleep. Also, hot yoga almost daily is still in my routine.
Emotionally, mentally, I am a mess. Thank you both for the encouragement. I will hang in there. There is not much else to do from here but move forward.
It's ok to be a mess... . seriously, if you were not - something would be really wrong with you. This is traumatic and not something you plan for. By the time you or any of us find this forum, we have exhausted most of our resources.
Be kind and patient with YOU right now.
Peace,
SB