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« on: August 03, 2013, 12:21:32 PM »
Have not posted in some time, but I just need to post this. My divorce was final 48 hours ago. So happy to have that weight removed from my soul! To anyone going through a divorce - keep your head up, be patient. It will happen.

Thanks all!
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« Reply #1 on: August 04, 2013, 05:10:58 AM »
  wchi

So great! 

I know how it feels, the relief... .

Now you can looking forward. Take care 

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« Reply #2 on: August 04, 2013, 11:06:56 AM »
Do you feel closure? I'm hoping it does for me from the way that she left in such an abrupt and chaotic way and didn't give me closure.
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« Reply #3 on: August 05, 2013, 01:04:34 AM »
I second what Mutt asked, that is my story.
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« Reply #4 on: August 05, 2013, 10:11:55 AM »
My divorce gave me closure and a true sense of not being responsible for BPD/Nxh any longer. We still have dealings due to the kids, but I'd already mourned my marriage and the husband I thought I'd lost (who didn't exist), so divorce was a gift just for me. It's still a date I celebrate in my heart each year, more so than my wedding anniversary which doesn't feel like much at all anymore.

Congratulations!
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« Reply #5 on: August 08, 2013, 01:49:10 PM »
I look forward to posting the same message soon. I can only imagine the since of relief you feel. I look forward to completely releasing the weight on my soul as well. I wish you a bright future!
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« Reply #6 on: August 08, 2013, 02:06:32 PM »
Me too. Dragging on since May 2012
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« Reply #7 on: August 12, 2013, 09:33:10 AM »
How wonderful!  Doing the right thing (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #8 on: August 12, 2013, 01:14:49 PM »
Glad to hear you feel free of that weight. In theory, mine will be final in just 2 more days, you'd think I'd be looking forward to it, but I think it may take awhile for it to sink in. I guess I still feel a sense of unreality about it all.
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« Reply #9 on: August 12, 2013, 01:43:14 PM »
Quote from: rogerroger on August 12, 2013, 01:14:49 PM
Glad to hear you feel free of that weight. In theory, mine will be final in just 2 more days, you'd think I'd be looking forward to it, but I think it may take awhile for it to sink in. I guess I still feel a sense of unreality about it all.

Congratulations! Go and live your life like the great person you are!
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« Reply #10 on: August 13, 2013, 12:11:39 AM »
Quote from: kormilda on August 05, 2013, 10:11:55 AM
My divorce gave me closure and a true sense of not being responsible for BPD/Nxh any longer.

I am separated and in the divorce process. My lawyer just told me that I shouldn't feel "responsible" for my wife. That we both are adults. Each one responsible for oneself.
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« Reply #11 on: August 13, 2013, 11:31:25 AM »
Amen to that! It takes time to get to that point especially after years of trying to rescue or fix the other person.
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