Well it's been 9 weeks from last contact

[dangoldfool]

Well it's been 9 weeks from last contact with ex GF. Today my business phone ring private caller so I ignore it 4 times sending it to voice mail. No voice message left. So I finally click to answer but say nothing. My ex GF say's " I know you can hear me. and you said I cheated on you" I end the call.

So I was trying to stay no contact. Did I blow it?

I talked to her ex.BF who she has kids with,and has kid custody fight going on. He shows up at my house from Texas I'm in Fl. He was coming down to be with his kids but because of the sex offender guy new BF they may not be coming. After I find out who he is, I tell him how my ex GF did me over lying and cheating. I assume that is where she got this news of what I was thinking/feeling.  I felt a bit nervous after the call. I guess it took me by surprise. I hope I don't get anymore.

[Validation78]

Hi DOF!

I can understand why that unnerves you a bit. I have a policy of not answering any unknown caller calls. If nobody leaves a message, it's either not important, or someone I probably don't want to talk to. My friends all know I do this. Anyone else can leave a message. I know this was your business phone, so you need to answer calls, and may not be able to be as strict as I am about not answering.

I don't think you broke NC since you didn't engage and hung up when you realized it was her. That took a lot of strength, so good for you!

Try to relax and not worry about the next time. Stay in the present moment, and not expend any emotions thinking about what may happen. You've obviously already decided what will happen if she calls, and you have the will to do it!

Best Wishes,

Val78