Justice

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Ever since I was left for another woman 8 months ago Ive had ups and downs and finally reached what I believe is the valley of indifference.  Yet I waited... when was my justice coming?

After the betrayal I defriended ALL of his friends.  In a strange turn of events, last weekend my BPDex’s best  friend (if you could call him that) was in town and my friend’s wound up bringing him back to my house late at night because he had nowhere to stay and they are still friends (and they were staying at my house for the weekend).  I was already asleep in my room with my new boyfriend.

The next morning I emerged from my room and was confused about his friend being there.  We had a nice little talk and I was kind, happy and wished my BPDex and his new girlfriend the best to his friend.  At that moment my new boyfriend walked into the room and my BPDexbf’s friend realized I had moved on.  He went home shortly after and I realized, my ex will  most definitely hear about this random event and he will now know Ive moved on to someone better, im healed and I don’t give a f*** about him!

Revenge is sweet (especially when you move on to someone healthy , kind, and faithful who is much  better looking haha)

So the point of this story is that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. It took me 8 months of pain and confusion but I have healed and moved on to a healthy loving relationship and as an added perk, MY BPDEX will know the connection is broken, he has no power over me and and now it is him who has been discarded. 

The best revenge truly, is healing , moving on , and being happy. 

So for everyone on these boards, know that yes,  It takes time. But Keep looking to the future and do not dwell on the past. Take the time to heal, GO 100% NO CONTACT. No emails, texts calls, no internet stalking.  It’s the fast track to healing I swear! Once you start to heal, you will attract like minded ,positive emotionally available, HEALTHY, SANE people.  And then, one day the Universe will give you your moment to show your BPDex that you have moved on.  That’s your justice,

Thanks to everyone on these boards who has helped me get to this point. 

[Oliolioxenfree]

Ever since I was left for another woman 8 months ago Ive had ups and downs and finally reached what I believe is the valley of indifference.  Yet I waited... when was my justice coming?

After the betrayal I defriended ALL of his friends.  In a strange turn of events, last weekend my BPDex’s best  friend (if you could call him that) was in town and my friend’s wound up bringing him back to my house late at night because he had nowhere to stay and they are still friends (and they were staying at my house for the weekend).  I was already asleep in my room with my new boyfriend.

The next morning I emerged from my room and was confused about his friend being there.  We had a nice little talk and I was kind, happy and wished my BPDex and his new girlfriend the best to his friend.  At that moment my new boyfriend walked into the room and my BPDexbf’s friend realized I had moved on.  He went home shortly after and I realized, my ex will  most definitely hear about this random event and he will now know Ive moved on to someone better, im healed and I don’t give a f*** about him!

Revenge is sweet (especially when you move on to someone healthy , kind, and faithful who is much  better looking haha)

So the point of this story is that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. It took me 8 months of pain and confusion but I have healed and moved on to a healthy loving relationship and as an added perk, MY BPDEX will know the connection is broken, he has no power over me and and now it is him who has been discarded. 

The best revenge truly, is healing , moving on , and being happy. 

So for everyone on these boards, know that yes,  It takes time. But Keep looking to the future and do not dwell on the past. Take the time to heal, GO 100% NO CONTACT. No emails, texts calls, no internet stalking.  It’s the fast track to healing I swear! Once you start to heal, you will attract like minded ,positive emotionally available, HEALTHY, SANE people.  And then, one day the Universe will give you your moment to show your BPDex that you have moved on.  That’s your justice,

Thanks to everyone on these boards who has helped me get to this point. 

[eyvindr]

Glad you're better. Hope things continue on this new path for you.

e.

[Mazda]

What a lovely, uplifting post.  So happy for you.

[hopealways]

I LOVE reading these positive hopeful uplifting posts! Thank you and congratulations to you as well. Hope we all get there soon.

[peas]

Right on! Great message. I look forward to finding contentment sooner than later after BPD.

You are right: when the time comes for our exes to learn a hard truth about our happiness without them, it will come. No need to force justice on our exes. And there is no guarantee "justice" will happen. But if and when it does, in whatever form, it sure is nice to have it.

If we just get on with our lives, we'll be okay.

[nolisan]

The best revenge is moving on and living a good life. If, by chance, that gets back to them, well that's just a little icing on the cake .

[Oliolioxenfree]

Thanks everyone. I really just wanted to show that it is possible for us to move on from these types of relationships and to be with loving people who will treat us well. 

We deserve it.

And if our exes find out about it then I wont stop the universe from sending them a nice little f*** you message