Brillo,
Did you write the email? Inquiring minds need to know!
How are you feeling today? I do hope you're in a better frame of mind and not feeling so much anger and hurt today.
-crazed
No I didn't. Thank you for thinking of me.
Feeling much calmer about it today. Time does heal. Hardest part is that the situation is so complicated and there's literally no one I can talk to who can possibly understand - or who has that much time on their hands!
Here's the latest -
She used to get some financial help from her long distance boyfriend, but they just broke up. I noticed on his FB page that around 50 people "liked" it when he announced he was single and there were about 10 comments along the lines of "thank god it's about time." So people must have known about what she was like. Sad.
She called my mom for the wire the day before yesterday while my mom was driving to visit my brother's grave. (My little brother died 9 years ago on the 22nd.) DIL was aware of that and insisting that my mom turn around and go to the bank wire it right away. My mom told her that wasn't going to happen and it would have to wait until the next morning.
The next day my mom wired the money. I spoke to my mom about it and she told me she knew she was not going to be repaid but that it was for the kids and she was okay with that. I explained to my mom what if it were the other way round - like what if I called DIL's parents unbeknownst to her and told them to give me money? When you change the players like that - it's obvious how crazy it is!
Anyway my mom sent her 3 emails asking her to confirm she got the wire. She also left a phone message. No answer. Finally this morning DIL emailed my mom that the agent didn't let her have the place because she was late with the money.
Now I know she has nowhere to live. I have the feeling that the kids have been staying at their APD dad's this whole time. I feel bad for DIL, but you know if she had just been willing to communicate with people who cared about her, it would not have gotten to a crisis stage. So aggravating to watch.
Also to complicate matters more - there was just a custody evaluation which went more in DIL's favor, but it was challenged and so another private evaluation is going on right now. Being homeless in the middle of that... .well it doesn't look good, does it? My granddaughters do NOT want to live with their dad. But I have done all I can do to prevent that and I'm really starting to believe that their mother is too mentally ill to hang on to her primary parent status.
So now I'm basically telling myself that I have done all I could possibly do to help her with custody - legally, financially and more. No matter what is decided, I did try my best.
Sometimes I think about doing "Medium Chill" but I don't know... .
My biggest problem is the inability to communicate with my grandkids. They have no cell phone I can call. No computer (she took it away from them) so no Skype. And no address so I can't mail them. The oldest one has a birthday in 3 days and I have a card sitting here that I can't send.
I'm still thinking about a SET style letter, to address communication with the grandkids. If I do write it - I'm going to run it by you all first. She tends to interpret everything as criticism!