Thank you daughterofDD and Moonbeam77. Your comments have been very helpful
. Because of what you wrote it is clear that it is just the same manipulation game, this time she has just upped the stakes. But really nothing is so different. It feels easier when I think of it like this. Thank you.
For uBPD mum money has always been a power issue. Before her last parent died a few years ago the money manipulations were focused mainly on them. Now they are not around (and she has the money she had waited for, for such a long time) I suppose it is just a naturally progression for her to focus her money manipulations on my brother and I.
I have been on the recieving end of the money manipulation before but not to such a great extent and I found it quite shocking.
Anyway, at the end of the day it is the same thing as usual, just a different tactic.
Thank you for your comments, VERY helpful