Hi QuestioningFaith,
We hear you !

I agree with you, it is a sad situation, and BPD is a sad thing as well. It is hard to understand that people can be so terribly damaged from a very young age.
Unfortunately it is reality. And you're right they don't know truth from lies, it just evolves in the way it makes them feel better.
If it was a special day, how about doing something just for yourself today ? Right now you are the most important person in your life. Concentrate on your healing ! Take care !
Reg