www.thebowencenter.org/pages/conceptmtp.htmlif one sibling's level of "self" is higher and another sibling's level of "self" is lower than the parents, one sibling's marriage is more differentiated and the other sibling's marriage is less differentiated than the parents' marriage. If each sibling then has a child who is more differentiated and a child who is less differentiated than himself, one three generational line becomes progressively more differentiated (the most differentiated child of the most differentiated sibling) and one line becomes progressively less differentiated (the least differentiated child of the least differentiated sibling). As these processes repeat over multiple generations, the differences between family lines grow increasingly marked.
Thus, the explanation for why my X is playing out her parents' dysfunctional marriage in front of my eyes and in my house, even though, in her words last night "I'm not in a relationship with you."
Yeah, just like your parents. Living a lie in front of our kids.
