regarding an e-mail i receive yesterday about me owing her money..none sense.

necchi

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regarding an e-mail i receive yesterday about me owing her money..none sense.

« on: December 21, 2013, 01:13:56 AM »

This is a transcript from French... .

Again you are honoring the small men in you as the borderline! It's one of the thousand reasons i told you i didn't want anything to do with you in july... .( ? It's me that ended it, but it doesn't matter ) You will never change, and will always be a no good to my eyes!

Of course, no need to reply ... .projections, projections,projections

Her birthday is today, maybe she wants a cake or something

Any thoughts ?


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Re: regarding an e-mail i receive yesterday about me owing her money..none sense.

« Reply #1 on: December 21, 2013, 01:26:03 AM »

i would say wow but actually it's kind of to be expected, sadly. i wouldn't respond to this at all. she's trying to bait you into interacting with her again. if you were the one that ended it you left her feeling powerless and she's used to controlling and wielding power over others so she's trying to draw you back in so she can feel more in control.

how would you feel if you sent her a message like this (which she would deserve) and then she never even acknowledged getting it? probably pretty silly. i'd give her the same pleasure of feeling silly by not even responding.


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Re: regarding an e-mail i receive yesterday about me owing her money..none sense.

« Reply #2 on: December 21, 2013, 01:30:42 AM »

Yes, sounds like 100% projection. You should ignore 100% of what she writes.

You may want to consider blocking her emails so she does not slow down your healing.


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Re: regarding an e-mail i receive yesterday about me owing her money..none sense.

« Reply #3 on: December 21, 2013, 01:33:32 AM »

I agree, this sounds like baiting, possibly triggered by her bday. I would not respond.


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« Reply #4 on: December 21, 2013, 01:40:29 AM »

Of course i will not reply!

Actually this one is not at all insulting compared to many others ...


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