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karma_gal
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Quote from: feelingcrazy7832 on January 20, 2014, 06:07:46 PM
Lol, KarmaGirl - as I was reading your post, I was seriously having vivid thoughts of my exBPD boyfriends face playing that all out. He never did that specific sh--t in toilet scene but I could SO see him doing the same thing, that I just couldn't get his face out of my head as I was reading.
Sorry for the flashback
I soo wish I had been running the video camera that day of all days to capture the absurdity. And the poor guy was dead serious while the kids and I were laughing so hard we were crying.
Unreal the stuff we put up with, huh?
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karma_gal ... .
I know to you that wasn't funny for sure, and I can totally picture the attitude and freaking out, but I did get a chuckle out of the way you presented it.
Yeah, my xgf would argue to the death about what I did... . what she didn't do... . who did what... . who was good, who was bad... . whatever... . and of course this changed from day to day too... . Crazy.
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Quote from: Murbay on January 15, 2014, 07:26:44 PM
One such comment she made, that I failed to notice, was her anger at the fact I bought a bar of chocolate 3 years ago and that contributes to the reason she is deeply in debt now.
Mine blamed lattes. She claimed that she had spent 'thousands' of dollars on me, that she actually added up the numbers. It doesn't make any logical sense. That's a LOT of lattes!
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Oh... . I was blamed for "taking away" her looks, her family, her close friends... . her "vibrant" life, her trust in people, her ambition, her drive to do anything... . that I caused her to go into a deep depression... . that I contributed to her job loss (nevermind she was still unemployed more than a year after our split). That I basically backed her into a corner which is why she had sex with those guys... . Nothing like being made out to be the direct cause of every pain for someone you actually cared about.
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Quote from: karma_gal on January 20, 2014, 05:06:52 PM
As soon as I hit the top of the stairs, I smelled the definitive smell of... .
er ... . well ... . since this topic has been brought up ... . i could add a few words here ... . but ... . ah ... . i won't ... .
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You ask me... . the whole relationship smelled like that... .
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Quote from: shellsh0cked on January 21, 2014, 02:31:30 PM
You ask me... . the whole relationship smelled like that... .
Cleaning out my mailbox... . came across some more good ones. There's a bunch of them... .
That's great. You have this listed as xxxxx & xxxxxx xxxxxx. Fabulous. You just know how to keep making it better, don't you?
(she's referring to an email I sent that apparently left a header with my ex wife and I as the sender... . total accident and I had forgotten it was on that account. Yes that insecure)
Thanks for taking every shred of hope I had in people, humanity, this world & shredding it. You win. I lose. So does my daughter. It really sucks for us, doesn't it?
"Your love"... . right? haaa... . that's a joke. Mother f#cker. F#ck you & your stupid mother f#cking selfish goddamned bullsh!t.
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Real sweetie huh? Notice all the blaming in the second section and guilt tripping... .
Thought I'd share that. I got more! Let's see yours if you wanna.
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Yikes! Plenty of dysfunction in those missives, no fun at all. You've been around here for a year and a half shocked, hopefully you're cleaning out your mailbox to permanently delete all of that and focus more on your future? One man's opinion, use as needed... .
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I’m posting here to bump this thread because it literally had me laughing in disbelief sometimes, sadly because the stories are so similar to what I’ve been through.
This is a great reminder thread in case you start to miss the r/s.
I sure pray and hope all the pwBPD get the help they need but wow I don’t miss these crazy times.
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