Met the woman that should have been me.

[coastalfog1]

 Lucky me, I ran into the woman that should have been me tonight. This is the woman that after one date my exwBPD moved to this town to be with. The same woman that never went out on a second date with my ex and I hate her for it. It took everything I had not to reach across the counter, to grab and shake her and tell her how her decisions ruined my life. How they turned me into the pathetic human being I am today. I’ve never felt such hatred towards another person, well except my ex. Realistically, I know it’s not her fault. I’m so jealous that she escaped this madness. That she has a great person in her life and I’m alone and unlovable. What did she see that I didn’t? How did she escape this misery?

[Moonie75]

She's very lucky because she's neither 'lonely child' (us), or abandoned child (your exBPD).

At her core is a well centered, balanced, emotionally developed child! That listens to her gut instinct!

I understand your frustration, she's the person we all need to become!

Tonight you met an emotional Goddess!

[sun seeker]

  Awesome question.

What I've read is us nons are attracting these sick ppl cause of our own issues.  Healthy ppl see they are sick quick & escape unscathed. For me the quick r/s was exactly what I needed (boy was I wrong) ,all the text , and my xdBPDgf was attached at my hip immediately all the attention was great. (Wrong )  Since I was fresh out of a bad r/s , I was alone , vulnerable. I instantly had love & a best friend (I thought & wrong again) And I have some issues from my child hood ( emotionally unsuportive parents) I was an easily susceptible to the BPDers ways.

Today I read a post that help me tremendously.  It might help you.  its under the subject on this board called "perspective peace, who did you need your ex to be" its the second post and its by learning curve its called " lonely child , abandoned child" hope this helps.

                                 Hang in thier my friend. This gets better if u stay n/c and if you read and share on this board. I promise.

[phantom17]

I don't really know your story, but I'd venture to guess that once you heal, you'll never find yourself in that same situation again. I'd go far as to say that you'll never even come close, because there's a good chance you'll now be able to spot crazy from a mile away. So in essence , you have already become" that woman". You just don't know it yet.