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I'm female and it still makes me tear up - I can't imagine what you men feel like when it comes on! It's a good song, but hopefully soon it will stop being on the radio all the time.
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Quote from: momtara on January 16, 2014, 11:16:20 AM
I'm female and it still makes me tear up - I can't imagine what you men feel like when it comes on! It's a good song, but hopefully soon it will stop being on the radio all the time.
I find I just can't listen to the radio anymore. Just talk radio and whatever is on my iPod... . I can't even listen to my favorite heavy metal anymore, because I don't want to be angry. I'm not numb, just baselined. It will probably be that way for a while. I'm just so jaded at the whole romance/love thing... . of course what my X accused me of being bad at. I tried and tried even before we had kids, and it was still always WoE. I could never do anything right, it seems.
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"Let her go" ... . by the group Passenger. What a lovely song.
I have it on my iPad using a free downloadable app called "i-Tube" .(This app is the best, ... . for those that are iPad, iPhone, iPod savvy, ... one should get this app). This app allows one to actually see the group perform the song (if you want to... ) as it is being played. This app can also be used for non-music youtube clips as well, ... . so any favourite youtube clip can be archived on the ipad. Just get it.
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Turkish, it wasn't your fault, but you know that by now.
It is hard when all the things we hold precious, like favorite songs, become instruments to smack us with memories. But hopefully time heals.
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Quote from: momtara on January 16, 2014, 12:17:15 PM
Turkish, it wasn't your fault, but you know that by now.
It is hard when all the things we hold precious, like favorite songs, become instruments to smack us with memories. But hopefully time heals.
One of my favorite songs, buy one of my favorite bands, the intro of it I have set as her ringtone. Still love the song, but now the band is tainted in my mind. It was mine before hers, but still... . need to get over that. It's actually a translation meaning "No One", but I won't name the song on the off chance she makes it here. Unlikely, I know, but still... . How applicable.
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That was a key song for my relationship too. My ex talked about it a lot, said she listened to it during one of our breakups, the one in November.
I've found it difficult to listen to songs with lyrics these days. Falling back on my old fave, Yo Yo Ma (cellist) and instrumental stuff. I found a disc on iTunes called 'Sad Songs' by the 'Sad Piano Collective'. Despite the overly dramatic name, I really like the music - it's very peaceful.
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My ex posted this song on her FB last Thursday. I believe it was a subtle "dig" at me, like I somehow let her go. She knew I liked the song and has NEVER posted music to her FB. I think it was a subtle dig or a reaching out to me to see if I would respond to her. I didn't. She let me go when I found her x mas eve night with my replacement.
I listen to the words and it is so fitting that someone is staring at the bottom of the glass, and she knew my problems with alcohol. She always shamed me about it, even when I had quit drinking. I'm sure she feels as if it were all my problem, this twisted RS we had for 14 years. I don't know maybe she sees it as her not knowing what she had until its gone. Anyway, it triggered me to find it on her FB, I have not been the same empowered person I was before. So, I learned my lesson, to stay away from FB and her.
Oh, and that guy singing "Let her go" sounds like a goddamn leprechaun singing out deep in the woods somewhere... . I learned that as well... . song sucks.
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ugh. it really does get to us.
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"Fix You" by Coldplay. Never really listened to Coldplay before I met her; not usually my type of music but she got me in to them. Took me to their concert too. We had a big fight before the concert; mostly my fault for various reasons but the mood was damped walking in to the concert. Once it started though, she was dancing like a little girl in the aisle.
But even early in the r/s before I had any idea what BPD was or what was going on, I knew that *something* just wasn't quite right and "Fix You" became my anthem for her. I can't listen to that song without tearing up like crazy.
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Quote from: In_n_Out on January 16, 2014, 09:30:37 PM
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Fix You" by Coldplay
. Never really listened to Coldplay before I met her; not usually my type of music but she got me in to them. Took me to their concert too. We had a big fight before the concert; mostly my fault for various reasons but the mood was damped walking in to the concert. Once it started though, she was dancing like a little girl in the aisle.
But even early in the r/s before I had any idea what BPD was or what was going on, I knew that *something* just wasn't quite right and "Fix You" became my anthem for her. I can't listen to that song without tearing up like crazy.
Count me in on that. That song would bring a river of tears for me, especially the first 2 months after she left me in round 2. There never was any real way of
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Quote from: Ironmanfalls on January 16, 2014, 09:34:42 PM
Quote from: In_n_Out on January 16, 2014, 09:30:37 PM
"
Fix You" by Coldplay
. Never really listened to Coldplay before I met her; not usually my type of music but she got me in to them. Took me to their concert too. We had a big fight before the concert; mostly my fault for various reasons but the mood was damped walking in to the concert. Once it started though, she was dancing like a little girl in the aisle.
But even early in the r/s before I had any idea what BPD was or what was going on, I knew that *something* just wasn't quite right and "Fix You" became my anthem for her. I can't listen to that song without tearing up like crazy.
Yup and for GODS sake, for you others, if you've never heard that song, don't listen to it! :'(
Count me in on that. That song would bring a river of tears for me, especially the first 2 months after she left me in round 2. There never was any real way of
fixing
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