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« on: January 19, 2014, 01:01:34 PM »

When a pwBPD says they have "moved on" is it safe to say that the majority of those with BPD say this because they have found or are finding a replacement? Something tells me that they typically dont say it because they feel they need to leave in order to under go serious therapy. I feel pwBPD are extremely self centered and say the have "moved on" because they have found or are attempting to find a replacement. Is this common with pwBPD? Am I correct in assuming this?... . and is that what they usually do before, during, or after they "discard" someone?  Im attempting to understand that part of their BPD behavior.
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« Reply #1 on: January 19, 2014, 02:18:35 PM »

It's a way for them to not admit they're running in place. Digging themselves a deeper hole.

PwBPD are like sharks. They have to keep moving, and devouring, or they sink to the bottom.

Letting them go, accepting that's their life not ours, we find release.
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« Reply #2 on: January 19, 2014, 03:07:22 PM »

I wouldn't believe they're moving on. I've heard it before, only to be contacted again and again.

Watch your back... .
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« Reply #3 on: January 19, 2014, 03:10:36 PM »

Lot's of people, disordered or not, say they are 'moving on'.  It may mean they found someone else, may not, but what it definitely means is they don't want to be with you anymore.  It's up to you to decide if she means it or she's just fcking with you.
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« Reply #4 on: January 19, 2014, 05:17:42 PM »

Just from my experience... . She didn't tell me that she was "moving on" until she was already in another relationship. Communication was not her strong suit. She just expected me to figure it out. Everything. No communication. Fill in the blanks.
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