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I'm popping in here for the first time to great others who have a BPD in their family. I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. She passed away in 2012. I first learned of BPD in a class in college and thought, "This is my mom!" when I first read it. Slowly confirmation has come from other family members, confirming that I am not crazy. I had just begun my journey to healing when she became ill and died. The journey to learn more about myself and the effects of BPD upon me has been one of the toughest things I've ever done. After 2 1/2 years of counseling with a professional therapist, I'm still learning and slowly getting better. The Surviving A Borderline Parent has been my constant companion. Each time I read some pages, new things are revealed. I take it one day at a time, and one step at a time as I work on the core beliefs from childhood that have shaped my life and who I am today.
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Hello Woolspinner2000,
Quote from: Woolspinner2000 on January 21, 2014, 08:14:53 PM
I'm popping in here for the first time to great others who have a BPD in their family. I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. She passed away in 2012. I first learned of BPD in a class in college and thought, "This is my mom!" when I first read it. Slowly confirmation has come from other family members, confirming that I am not crazy. I had just begun my journey to healing when she became ill and died. The journey to learn more about myself and the effects of BPD upon me has been one of the toughest things I've ever done. After 2 1/2 years of counseling with a professional therapist, I'm still learning and slowly getting better. The Surviving A Borderline Parent has been my constant companion. Each time I read some pages, new things are revealed. I take it one day at a time, and one step at a time as I work on the core beliefs from childhood that have shaped my life and who I am today.
dealing with the pains from the past can be sometimes surprising hard. It is good that you take your time and do it at your pace. Healing can't be forced.
You will find supportive ears and others on the same path on the
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welcome woolsinner2000
Healing does take time and this site has a lot of resources to look at and I encourage you to do so. Here are a couple to get you satrted.
How a Mother with Borderline Personality Disorder Affects Her Children
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Thank you for your warm welcome to me! I've been reading a lot of things on this site and Wow! So much! Brings back memories that I need to have and work through, helps with understanding, tells me I still have a long ways to go but I'm not alone with so many of you having gone through the same thing. I won't discredit myself though for all the progress I've made. One thing that really helps is to see that others here are farther in the journey and they freely and openly talk about the abuse we've all experienced. My relationship with my uBPD mom is still unfolding in my mind. A few months ago I kept asking my safe people what abuse is because life was so normal to me as a child and I couldn't wrap my head around the facts that said I was abused. All the ways I react to almost everything and everyone in my life says pretty clearly, "You were abused." Just getting to this place has been a huge step for me.
I have so many many holes in my memory and life. Sometimes I wish I could remember more, then other times I'm scared to death to remember what I only have snippets of being able to recall. Those have been scary enough.
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