Knowing that it is not me

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

6 months after the end my uBPDxh still is telling me I am the problem but he will love me forever.

Going through this divorce has been one of the hardest things I have ever done.  Having to hear from our children how he is still abusive to them is the hardest thing I have ever done.  Knowing he has sweet talked a judge and the local police bugs the crum out of me.


But right now my grandfather is in hospice.  And I am here supporting my Aunt.  And I continue to go to work everyday, do the laundry, pay the bills.

Every normal thing I do reminds me that it isn't me and I am choosing to leave an unhealthy relationship to be a healthier person.

[Mcgddss]

6 months after the end my uBPDxh still is telling me I am the problem but he will love me forever.

Going through this divorce has been one of the hardest things I have ever done.  Having to hear from our children how he is still abusive to them is the hardest thing I have ever done.  Knowing he has sweet talked a judge and the local police bugs the crum out of me.


But right now my grandfather is in hospice.  And I am here supporting my Aunt.  And I continue to go to work everyday, do the laundry, pay the bills.

Every normal thing I do reminds me that it isn't me and I am choosing to leave an unhealthy relationship to be a healthier person.

[Learning_curve74]

Kudos to you Mcgddss for recognizing your needs, for understanding your right to being healthy.   

Love is not enough. People can love without being involved in a relationship: Feeling love is easy, the nuts and bolts of a relationship take having the right tools and a lot of elbow grease.