What would you call it , if not gaslighting, if it is not on purpose?
On New Year's Day my bf asked if I was going to his sisters for dinner (he had other plans), I said I didn't know she was having it this year she never said anything to me or texted me. His response was "yes she invited you on Christmas Eve." I said "no, I was cooking in kitchen", him... "yes, it must have been you were drinking too much." I know I hadn't drank that much and knew she didn't say anything. So while driving to dinner I asked his kids, who I took, if their aunt said anything on Xmas eve about dinner... . they both said "no". So, why would my BPDbf make me believe something else.
That's exactly the kind of thing I've been having for 20 years; having been told about things and having agreed to go places - and then just not remembering! The problem of course is that my wife has promised to come and there's no way she's going alone.
This has nothing to do with "confusion", it's more to do with a discrete form of dominance.
Speaking of phonecalls; I allways answer ppls calls except for my wive's. Perhaps it's a way of "revenge", but I've just got tired of being respectful in this area. She never answers the phone unless she expects (or wants) a call. Even after this has got us into serious trouble repeatedly (we are parents!) she keeps turning off her phone because she's so into some cooking project or something.
