Hi,
mama m. Welcome back.
It sounds like you are still feeling frustrated with your husband's family. Understandable. There are tools here that might help you if you want to use them.
When you say you want out and staying isn't an option, do you mean you want to stop having contact with them, or that you want out of your marriage? I am assuming the former.
You do not have to let other people decide whether you feel like a good person. You can be a good person even when other people say you are not. Everyone needs boundaries, and it's a good idea to know where yours are. Have you had a look at
BOUNDARIES: Upholding our values and independence?
You might also be interested in
How to stop circular arguments and
Arguing - don't engage. There are some good tips there on how to resist the urge to argue.
When you do need to communicate with your husband's family, this is a helpful tool:
TOOLS: S.E.T. - Support, Empathy and Truth In fact, it is really helpful in all kinds of relationships.
Are you still talking with a therapist,
mama m? How are your children?
Wishing you peace,
PF
