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« on: February 12, 2014, 12:11:10 PM »
I just needed to tell all of you this. It is life changing for me.

I feel like I have dropped 20 pound weights from my shoulders.

It's taken me nine months to get here, thank god I finally got here!

I'm getting excited again about my life, and my new boyfriend.

Thank you all,

L
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« Reply #1 on: February 12, 2014, 12:15:16 PM »
That's fantastic L.

What a bright post to read among the others!

Pleased for ya x
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« Reply #2 on: February 12, 2014, 12:18:46 PM »
Excellent to hear! Isn't that just a terrific feeling? I love those moments of clarity!  Doing the right thing (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #3 on: February 12, 2014, 12:23:37 PM »
I've realized when I miss her dog more than the ex, I'll be almost there!  Smiling (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #4 on: February 12, 2014, 12:23:57 PM »
That must be such a good feeling!  

Enjoy, the lightness!
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« Reply #5 on: February 12, 2014, 12:39:42 PM »
oh my word... . I can't believe I've finally let this go.

I feel like I can breathe again.

7 months of therapy, lots and lots of love from friends and family and taking care of myself.

Hours spent here, posting every day.

It worked.

Thank you all so very much.
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« Reply #6 on: February 12, 2014, 12:42:03 PM »
Quote from: love4meNOTu on February 12, 2014, 12:11:10 PM
I just needed to tell all of you this. It is life changing for me.

I feel like I have dropped 20 pound weights from my shoulders.

It's taken me nine months to get here, thank god I finally got here!

I'm getting excited again about my life, and my new boyfriend.

Thank you all,

L

I've done this at least 10 times in the past 5 months!
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« Reply #7 on: February 12, 2014, 01:03:24 PM »
What the heck Waifed?

It needs to stick for you! Smiling (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #8 on: February 12, 2014, 01:05:13 PM »
You're telling me!  Luckily I am in one of these good modes right now.  Maybe this will be the one that sticks.
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« Reply #9 on: February 12, 2014, 01:45:19 PM »
Great post!  I hope to get there eventually!
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« Reply #10 on: February 12, 2014, 02:38:41 PM »
That's terrific, love  Doing the right thing (click to insert in post)

I remember a similar experience.  And the shifts kept coming.  Smiling (click to insert in post)

Congrats on all the great work you've done.  Enjoy the new you!

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« Reply #11 on: February 12, 2014, 03:35:30 PM »
Quote from: Waifed on February 12, 2014, 12:42:03 PM
Quote from: love4meNOTu on February 12, 2014, 12:11:10 PM
I just needed to tell all of you this. It is life changing for me.

I feel like I have dropped 20 pound weights from my shoulders.

It's taken me nine months to get here, thank god I finally got here!

I'm getting excited again about my life, and my new boyfriend.

Thank you all,

L

I've done this at least 10 times in the past 5 months!

Trauma bonds are difficult to break.  I congratulate you on feeling free, even for a moment.  And if you feel attached again, it doesn't mean failure.  Just normal progression.

Just like entrapment of disorder is push/pull, dislodging was also back and forth for me.

I've had to learn to just accept the cycles of detachment as part of the process and respond in a productive manner.


Congrats again.  Freedom from the addiction even for moment are real evidence that things can get better.
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« Reply #12 on: February 12, 2014, 04:45:56 PM »
That's so awesome Love!  I can't wait until I get to that place too... .

I have moments, even hours in the day when I don't think about him so I suppose I'm on the right road, but not there yet.

Good for you... .  
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