What to make of this...

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

My BPD wife ran back to her parents, a month and a half ago, after she bit me and went into a rage.  She left just about everything here (Clothes, Jewelry, Underwear, Shoes (What woman leaves ALL of her shoes behind?), etc., as if she was going to return.  She hasn't asked for anything except a pair of jeans awhile back and 1 pair of shoes.  She filed for divorce a month ago.  What do I make of this?  Is there a recycle in the offing?

[kfifd196]

My BPD wife ran back to her parents, a month and a half ago, after she bit me and went into a rage.  She left just about everything here (Clothes, Jewelry, Underwear, Shoes (What woman leaves ALL of her shoes behind?), etc., as if she was going to return.  She hasn't asked for anything except a pair of jeans awhile back and 1 pair of shoes.  She filed for divorce a month ago.  What do I make of this?  Is there a recycle in the offing?

[fromheeltoheal]

Dunno, but I see a few options.  One, like you said, a recycle, meaning she plans on coming back to her life with you at some point, or did when she left, although the divorce filing would kind of negate that.  Another one might be she intended to throw her past life away entirely, including all her clothes and everything, and buy all new for a fresh start.  Or, she might have just lost it entirely emotionally and had no plan, just unbridled flight.

Regardless of what she's up to, what are you going to do?  Is your bite wound healing?

[kfifd196]

Thank you, the bite has healed... . But, you just made me think of something.  Before I met my wife, she was living with her parents.  She was renting a carriage house before that and it had a major mold issue, so she left everything there and moved home.  The only thing she took was her big Alcoholics Anonymous book.  She left that here, but took her smaller version.  She has said at times,, that she could never move back her because of "all of the bad memories"... . but there were more good memories than bad and 75% of the bad memories were caused by her insecurities or trust issues... . She even left the baby crib, pack and play, rocker, etc that her family bought for our baby... . You'd think she'd want them!  Nothing, not even a peep about them... .

[arn131arn]

I have to agree with H2H on this one. Everything he said.

But I do have the exact same experience as you. She left in late August early September.

She has not come back for her stuff, as well. She has replaced me and even after a court filing to pick her stuff up, she still hasn't.

In my case, I think like H2H said, she ain't coming back. Full flight... . trading the soccer mom lifestyle for the yacht club wife.

If it's not gone by the next hearing I will ask the judge if I can throw it away.