Could I lose the other kids over her behavior?

[Elbry]

My husband and I are licensed foster parents.  We are Kinship Fostering my 2 grandsons aged 2 and 4.  I just got off the phone with our licensing person and she is coming over to talk to us about my daughter.  She said my DD's last overdose is a "licensing consideration" because her attempts keep happening. 

I am just sick with worry.    My other daughter's parental rights to the 2 boys have been terminated and the state is working on terminating the father's.  One father they can't find, and one is fighting it.  Once that is done, we would have been adopting them.  I am so scared they will find us not eligible for adoption, that my home is not safe and secure enough.  These little boys do not deserve this, and I can't imagine traumatizing them by ripping them from my home and putting them with strangers. 

Oh I am so angry with my daughter right now!

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[jellibeans]

Dear Elbry

I am sorry you are going throught this. Try not to jump ahead. I really don't think they would want to remove these two boys from your care. Try not to blame your dd... . they are just doing their job and making sure things are good. What can you do in the meantime to prove that your home is safe and secure? I think we mentioned having a safe where meds could be locked up or a closet or cabinet... . just take a deep breath and look around your home and make sure things are safe for the boys. When it rains it pours Elbry... . hang in there... . I am sure you have rights and there is a procedure they have to follow so try not imagine the worst... .

[co.jo]

How old is your daughter? That is a factor. I had a similar situation, and was able to adopt a little boy , but my daughter was in another home at the time, and then came home and they allowed it, but talked to her about her being the one to move if there was a problem. Of course, different places have different rules, but I would guess that the onus would be on you to tell what safeguards you have in place for the younger ones.Safety is the main issue.

Good luck!

[Elbry]

jellibeans you were right, I WAS jumping ahead and I always imagine the worst.    

Our licensing agent came today and she said it was protocol that she follow-up on the CPS report.  She had read the caseworker's report about all the services we have for my DD and how we lock up meds and sharps and the other things we have done for her safety, and she was fine with that.  Once again I got all worked up for nothing.  That's not to say it won't be a problem if things continue to happen though.

Thanks guys!

[jellibeans]

I am glad it worked out Elbry... . I really have a habit of doing that too... . I am trying to live more in the moment... . baby steps