will we truly move on...

[magichat101]

Just been thinking lately... . There are some of us on here that have been NC for years and others day, weeks, months, so I was really thinking are we will going to ever move on from the hurt? Sure some people will but what about us that have been out of the relationship for a year +... . When will it be our turn to stop grieving and learn to love again?

I have been out of my relationship for about a year now and although I am no longer devastated I still very much so still think about my ex at least 5 times a day. I have no anger but I do have sadness over the fact that I was a placeholder to fill a void that her ex made when she dumped him and pretty sure she regrets it... .

[LuckyNicki]

No matter what, we have to push ourselves to move on and in the end, its on us.  We must work on ourselves and enjoy the other things in life.

This whole thing with my ex has pushed me to want to improve in life in every way.  Its entirely up to me to make that happen.   I am eager but a little worried about myself.    If we dont focus on ourselves we will likely be thinking about our ex for a long time.

We have to move on and work on ourselves.   We have no other choice but to keep going.

Its funny I was just having thoughts about how to move on prior to reading ur post.

[heartandwhole]

Hi magichat1,

I think we do move on from the hurt, and it takes as long as it takes.  Each of us is unique. No contact is not the magic bullet, it's the detachment process that brings freedom.

For me, NC, therapy, and this site were the tools that helped.

What part of the grief cycle do you feel you are working through now?