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« on: April 26, 2014, 11:20:05 PM »

This must be the worst part of this whole thing. She did things that caused me to doubt myself so much that I now doubt myself about most things. I'm slowly regaining confidence. But even about her, it's like a constant cycle of rage, empathy and neediness towards her. It takes so long to "return to normal" too, argh! I'm so frustrated.
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« Reply #1 on: April 27, 2014, 12:24:21 AM »

So I can decide my own worth

I looked back at some of your old posts. That song you wrote has one line especially that caught my eye. A line that offers hope and positivity. I know you will overcome this and feel confident again. Hang in there. My story is a bit different, but I understand.



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« Reply #2 on: April 27, 2014, 01:39:27 AM »

Thanks for your post, and for looking into my story. It helps. I know what I have to do. It's just a struggle to work my way out of almost complete neurosis and so much disassociation. It's getting better though. But I wish it got better faster. On the bright side, I'm sticking up for myself more in general. This whole thing taught me that there is no bad people, just bad actions. It really allows me to take the things people do, much less personally. Good luck to yourself, too. Smiling (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #3 on: April 27, 2014, 01:49:09 AM »

Youre not alone... .  my confidencd is destroyed. With the first bp I atteactdd it was my intelligence... With this one it was my intelligence and looks. I walked away this time, and was a lot stronger than last time I didnt put up with it nc for 16 days now.

We can do this! It totally sucks but we got this!
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