About two years ago I sent my partners 23 year old son, and her mother a copy of walking on Eggshells, to this date they have not read it... Just saying they've been too busy
I'm sorry to read that :'(.
It is the way of the world. We don't listen to those who know better. We have to make our own mistakes. So many of these people are so brutalized from their experiences that they just want to get on with their life. They don't want to read or learn anything the reminds them of their past experiences.
I guess there is a distinct difference between finding out yourself out of curiosity (or because you had to), and being told by someone else. The idea that someone would tell me where my attention seeking behaviour comes from already hurts, but finding out myself is fine.
I've read once that we all have pitfalls in our lives, but people can have different coping styles. Some fully surrender (and often seak help themselves), some ignore, some fight against it.
Asking other people to shift from ignoring to surrendering would be the same as asking me to pretend some of my issues are not there and to never speak of them again.
Thanks guys for this.