its like a scab

[refusetosuccumb]

I have LC due to the fact that we have children together.

Everytime I have to see my ex its like the scab of my healing is picked at. Every interaction picks at it a little less but im always sore afterwards.

Ive stemmed my bleeding, and the kids bleeding. For that I am forever grateful. The kids notice how peaceful and quiet our new place is. No eggshells to walk on daily.

[grover11]

refusetosuccumb I know how you feel. Although my kids are all grown (19,21, and 31) I find time with the 2 that see me is much better now. My youngest son and I are very close and having him here is alot better now that we don't have to walk on eggshells and can just enjoy our time together, he brings his girlfriend over sometimes and its really enjoyable to just hang out and do whatever we feel like doing without worrying about hoe my wife will react. My daughter has brought my 2 grandkids over once already and I am planning a sleepover at Granspa's

soon.

Unlike you I do not have to have any contact with my wife and for now it's been a good thing.

[Lucky Jim]

Hey rts, Agree, it's hard when you have kids together because, even in LC mode, some interactions are unavoidable and sources of stress.  Yet afterwards I usually feel grateful to be out of the toxic BPD soup and each time it gets a little easier, as you note.  LuckyJim