Hello I have posted before... . I had a nearly 3 year 'relationship' with my diagnosed ex BPD GF. She was 30 me 47... being on here you can guess the rest. Plenty of Fish has a lot to answer for!
After meeting her once for a drink she invited me to her 30th Birthday party at her parents house 2 days later
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I was greeted like a hero and long lost friend by the whole family. whilst there she rushed up and kissed me on more then one occasion
. I was made to feel most welcome and flattered. Look she's a pretty young girl looking great in shorts, a gold boob tube top and tiara!
. I am a professional type I dress well arrived in an XKR convertible so was not looking too bad myself.
I went to leave later in the evening and she came rushing down stairs with a bag packed
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That night we had sex in a hotel, the night of her 30th birthday. The journey there was interesting too!
Fast forward... . Her turning up at my door unannounced, moving in, the first early rage within a week, running off (at least once a week), paranoia, blaming, The LIES, drinking demands (name tattoo on my back),engagement ring, Physical and mental abuse. She drove her car into my house 6 months in (17K insurance claim).She was 4 times over... . 2 year ban. Continuously telling me to put her in my will, move house, buy her a new car, book a wedding date. This was during the devaluation stage.
Yes there was 3 holidays and some good times. She could be generous however she was a 30k credit card bankrupt. As a point of reference I am self employed own 2 houses solvent. No criminal record not bankrupt and a responsible guy. I am in the motor trade and from London so maybe come across as a bit of a player type. In hindsight she met her match a bit. Although now older I was truly happy to work through the ___ that she brought to the party.
We parted first in December last year after a 4 hour domestic. Yet again words the e previous night were perceived as abandonment signs, So I arrived home to a drunk with her bags packed. I tried to stand my ground and showed her the door rather than back down. Neighbours called the police and she was arrested and convicted for assaulting them.
I have seen her 3 times since then obviously at times when she cannot stand to be on her own. The sex was welcomed the terrible devaluation at that time was not. Only now do I REALISE how manipulated I have been. She has found a new shiny toy I think... . good luck to him!
Its 3 years today... I text her with Happy Birthday! She replied Thank U.
The new Guy better be making it a special day for her otherwise he will have hell to pay!
Why do I care? Why am I still on here? I just cant get the lying, childish, irresponsible, sexy... . did I say sexy? Little hermit, waif, Queen out of my mind. The Witch I do not miss at all. Any comments to my post will be received with gratitude and trust me I am still hurting especially tonight
